• Sunsofold@lemmings.world
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    Because no one I’m seeing in these comments is bringing it up, there is something to be said for wanting to do a thing yourself. Sure, if the goal is just orgasms, shove her on a sybian and go play video games. It’ll be very efficient. However, if your goal is to engage in a shared experience where each of you is dedicating yourself to the labor of pleasuring the other in the most intimate way possible, even if it doesn’t result in an orgasm, then the vibrator is not working toward your goal. Look at oral. Almost no person is going to orgasm from giving oral. We do it as an act of love, giving pleasure to a partner without pleasure being automatically recieved. A vibe will make your partner cum whether or not you are there. The genAI of orgasms, a machine producing using raw electric power what a person would produce using skill and emotion. Using it doesn’t have the same demonstration effect. There is a special satisfaction in being the one who puts in the work to bring a partner to orgasm, and a special satisfaction that comes from being the one they are willing to put real effort into bringing to an orgasm. Which one matters more to you is subjective but this take is overly flattening while pretending to be enlightened.

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      You can use a vibrator on someone, even integrate them into normal PIV sex. Sex toys are your teammates, not your competition. Then again I’m a lesbian and we don’t have as many hang-ups about using sex toys during sex.

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        That’s just repeating the concept in the OP and ignoring my point. There is a value in the personal touch. Which would signal a better partner to you: a woman who knows you like to have food sometimes so she installs a vending machine in your apartment with all the options set to ice cream and the prices at 0.00, so you can always have as much of this one thing to eat, any time, any day, with or without her, as you like as long as you keep paying for power, or one who knows you like food, so she figures out what you like and dislike, learns recipes that she thinks will make you happy, spends time finding or growing good produce to make those recipes, and only when she’s feeling ill or burned out by work, reaches for the vending machine? The vending machine is always there as an option, but not wanting to use it is not just weakness. It’s often a desire to be the best version of yourself for your partner, not as a competition with the machine but a competition with the limitations of human language and form to express the inexpressible extent of your love.

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      How rude; no need to insult the guy!

      explaining the joke

      (A million times more than zero is still zero. Bad photoshops are so much better than AI that the comparison defies being quantified!)

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      I regularly have people presenting to me and have to give feedback. I’m now actively looking for messy presentation slides with typos and pressing them with questions afterwards to tease out if I’m just being given an AI copy/paste output or genuine work.

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      If you can’t bring more to a relationship than an appliance can, then you’ve got to work on yourself.

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        This is a bad take. There’s nothing wrong with using toys during sex. There’s nothing wrong with your partner using a toy on you instead of their body nor is there nothing wrong with your partner just enjoying witnessing you using a toy on yourself. As long as everyone is enjoying themselves and everything is consensual and safe, who cares?

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          I fully agree with everything you just said. My point was that if you bring so little to the table that you feel you’re in danger of being successfully replaced by a toy, then you need to do some self-improvement.

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            I guess I can agree with that with the caveat that the self improvement should be understanding that the presence of a toy in sex isn’t replacing you at all. Wanting to use a toy with someone is not replacing them.

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    People who grew up on Nintendo, and specifically Mario Party in the early days, definitely have a particular set of skills though.

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    Bad photoshop my ass, that’s some fine photoshop work!

    I must agree though, I’d rather see some bad photoshop memes than AI slop.

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    early on when i gave her one for xmas she was shocked (sheltered upbringing). to this day it by far the xmas gift she uses the most

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    Ladies, is it off-putting if you take home a random guy and he brings his own vibrator?

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    “I know what you’re thinking. ‘Did he get me to fire six nuts or only five?’ Well, to tell you the truth, in all this excitement I kinda lost track myself. But being this is a magic wand vibrator, the most powerful in the world and would blow your clit clean off, you’ve got to ask yourself one question: ‘Do I feel horny?’ Well, do ya, punk?”

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    Seeing people call every edited thing ‘AI’ even when it’s not actually made with AI reminds me of how people used to call every edited thing ‘photoshopped’

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    This is not the kind of thing people say “on main”, but I gotta say, holding your partner in your arms from behind while using this? Such an intimate experience.

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    This works. It’s like watching an exorcism. I don’t have a lot of achievements in my life, but this was a proud moment.