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  • I’m a somewhat feminine man myself, and man I hear where you’re coming from. And truth be told, you’ve managed to accept yourself the way you are earlier than I did. It took me a while to accept myself.

    I also get the impression, though, that you have a traumatic response to the whole situation due to your upbringing. And it seems to me that that is something that you’ve accepted on the surface, but deep down, you’re still fighting with it. Which, by the way, is OK and normal. This shit takes time and work. If you have access in any way to mental healthcare, use it. You need to work through what you’ve experienced and learn how to deal with it better.

    And I’m not sure I quite understood the situation completely - but if you’re still living with your parents, pull out all the stops to move out. As soon as possible. Otherwise, it will only keep dragging you down. As you’ve alluded to, despite all the shit happening today, there’s still a brighter world out there than what you’re experiencing with your family. It will be worth it, I promise.






  • What is with all this CBC bashing lately? I’ve said written it before, I’ll write it again: the CBC isn’t perfect, but no one who actually follows the CBC can in all honesty claim that they’re not regularly showing the horrors happening in Gaza in plenty of detail, saying who’s doing it, and putting the BS coming from the Israeli government into its horrific context.

    Makes me wonder if there’s an astroturfing campaign going on. Let’s not forget, the right would love to be rid of the CBC.





  • If you mean what you can do to prevent your own panic attacks - I know of a number of people who have massage rings (aka therapy rings) and massage balls. When they feel a panic attack coming, they will use them by for example squeezing the massage ball pretty hard so it causes a slight amount of pain, and that has a similar effect. As @tomenzgg@midwest.social mentioned, the goal is to shift your attention from the panic attack.

    Also, since panic attacks are often coupled with hyperventilation, the breathing into a bag trick isn’t some TV trope, it actually works. I had to drive a friend of mine to the hospital for a severe panic attack and they did the bag thing, and I was blown away by how quickly she stopped hyperventilating and calmed down.



  • “All opinions other than mine are only supported by dopamine highs” - wow, what a great new way of being condescendingly dismissive!

    OP actually left the consequences of climate change open. No, it probably won’t be a Mad Max inferno. Probably not. But we also don’t know where the tipping point of the oceans is, because they are storing a shit ton of carbon. Hit that tipping point, and that carbon may well suddenly be released into the air, and then the shit hits the fan.

    But even if that scenario doesn’t happen, and the world is still theoretically perfectly livable, you mentioned one of the main problems: mass migration. We already see what that’s doing today. We’re not far away from World War 3 anymore. So yes, the question is perfectly legitimate.

    (And before anyone thinks it: I’m not blaming the migrants, of course they’re not at fault, they have every right to look for a better life. The people at fault are entirely different, but it doesn’t change the fact there is a causational relationship)




  • I’m sorry, this must be a different CBC than the one I’m following. The one I’m following barely goes a day without detailing the horrors. The hospital bombings, the starvation/famine, the killing of journalists, and so on. I mean, the CBC ain’t perfect, but it’s definitely not whitewashing the situation in Gaza. Even when the news making event is about the Israeli hostages (not too often nowadays), a sizeable chunk is still dedicated to the horrors in Gaza to put it into perspective. And I don’t think I’ve ever seen a statement from Israeli government officials get aired without serious scrutiny in the last year.



  • When people have created a narrative that “white x y z men” are responsible for all the evil in the world (I’m exagerating, but you get my drift), it creates a very difficult situation when those people are facing some serious difficulties. The intellectually lazy thing to do in that case is to brush it off or minimize it, like in the ways you’ve described. And unfortunately, that’s the route those same people will take, since identity politics are intellectually lazy (and lacking compassion, but that’s another story).

    The unfortunate part of it is that the right has taken advantage of that wide open flank, which is one main reasons we’re in this current clusterfuck.