Don’t have to say a name, something like “local thai place” is fine.
Bonus: What makes it a perfect date dinner spot?
My place. First, the food is fabulous. Second, the food is cheap.
Edit: This pizza cost about $3 to make and it’s a really great, authentic sourdough Neapolitan.
I also choose this guy’s place.
Recipe?
Apologies, I only just now saw this. The recipe I used for this pizza is below.
Tomato Sauce (makes enough for four pizzas)
One 28-oz can of San Marzano whole peeled tomatoes
3 tbs tomato paste
1 tbs olive oil
1 1/2 tsp sea salt
1 tsp dried basilCheese
2 oz fresh mozzarella, thinly sliced (can use more if you like)Toppings
Fresh basilDough
258g 00 flour
50g sourdough starter (at peak)
162g water
5g sea salt
3/4 tsp olive oilInstructions
Blend juice from tomatoes with other sauce ingredients well in blender. Add tomatoes and pulse to crush, leaving chunks. Refrigerate until ready to use, stir before applyingMix all dough ingredients (except salt) in stand mixer bowl with dough hook
Knead at medium speed in stand mixer for 15 minutes, adding salt in about halfway through
Let sit for 15 minutes, covered
Do a final knead, 4 minutes
Round dough and place in container and cover, allow bench ferment until at least doubled (use spray oil on container to keep from sticking)
Punch down, re-round and put in refrigerator for cold ferment 24-72 hours
Preheat outdoor oven to at least 900F (~15 minutes on high) Stretch and top your pizza with the sauce and cheese (the pictured pizza was stretched to about 14" and feeds two comfortably)
Turn oven to low, place pizza in oven, close and allow ~15-20 seconds for bottom to firm up, then turn flame back to high
Turn pizza 1/4 turn, 15-20 seconds each turn until 360 is complete
Pizza should bake in around 90 seconds, being careful to turn as necessary to avoid burning near the flame
Add basil after the bake is complete
Waffle House for the opportunity to demonstrate my martial prowess
If the date is still going at prime waffle house fight hours, you’re already doing well.
Pizza. If you don’t like getting pizza, then you don’t like me.
I know “it depends” is a wishy washy answer, but really it depends. I fucking love outrageously spicy food - scared my now husband when he took me to a Thai place by ordering papaya salad authentically spicy, it’s been a dozen years and he still brings it up, like he tried it & it gave him PTSD. It was so good though, and I was so happy they did not pull any punches.
If it’s a first date, I wouldn’t like to drink, so maybe pizza? I think what makes a place good for a date is when all the food is for the table, not each of you separately. If the guy was loaded and wanting to go someplace pricy, there are very fancy restaurants here that serve that way, but pizza I like, most people like, and it is not usually a drinking food IMO, it’s better with water or soda. And you share it.
If a foodie guy, I’d ask for Ethiopian food. Those meals are also served on one big injera for the table and wow so delicious and also not a drinking sort of meal.
I’m a service top when it comes to restaurants (and also generally, but that’s besides the point). Typically when I am planning a first date with someone, I first ask if they have any dietary needs, and then I ask if there is any food they have been craving lately or if there are any restaurants in the area that they have been meaning to try.
If they say they are craving a specific type of food, I am pretty well enough acquainted with the different types of restaurants in my area that I can choose accordingly. I typically will choose the restaurant that serves the “best” food they have been craving. I love to bond over good food and I love showing people new things that they will enjoy (another facet of being a service top), so at the very least we will be able to talk about how good the food is and they have a new dinner spot they can take their friends.
If they choose a restaurant they’ve been meaning to try, it makes for a good dinner conversation and I potentially get to have a new spot on my restaurant list.
If they don’t have a preference, then I just choose a spot that I’ve been meaning to try that’s halfway between where we both live so it’s convenient for the both of us. If there isn’t anything I want to try in the area, I will just go for something like a sit down pizza spot.
Also, once I’ve picked a spot, I normally look in the area and pick a potential second location for us to go to if the date is going well and we still want to hang out after dinner. Typically I look for a dive bar because they’re fun, cheap, and easy to talk in.
I’m a service top
Sorry, a what, now?
Don’t you mean a foodie?
I take it you’re not queer or trans hahaha. I’ll explain :)
You know how a lot of queer people classify themselves as tops, bottoms, sides, and verses depending on which position they prefer when they’re having sex? Well within those four classifications, there are countless sub-classifications.
One subclassification in the “top” classification is “service top”. A service top is a top who prioritizes “servicing”, or pleasuring their sexual partners instead of prioritizing their own sexual gratification when they have sex.
So basically I was making a joke about myself and my own sexual classification. Because I am someone who priorizes the enjoyment of the other person in bed, it extends to me prioritizing the enjoyment of others in my waking life and accordingly informs how I would pick a restaurant on the first date.
If I was hanging out with a bunch of queer and trans people, they would get the joke. But I realize that a random stranger on the internet probably wouldn’t get it. Sorry about that. Hope you learned something new, though!
Oooooohhhhh…
Thank you for the patient explanation. No, I am about as Cis as can be, a full Kinsey zero. But I thought that my time of running across strange phrases I completely fail to understand would come when I am considerably older. Not in my sixth decade. While I am not “with it”, to spindle grandpa Simpson’s quote, I do try to at least keep my head above water. At least I know what this euphamism is all about, now.
😄👍🏻
Somewhere with vegan food.
sup bby?
Hello.
Vegan dating is hard hey.
I’m more so vegetarian. I still eat dairy and eggs. I can’t find anyone who would want to date anyway.
Figure out what you like and who you are and do it meticulously. I’m also extremely picky but also wildly pansexual and used to be extremely confused by that. Another thing that might help is to lean into any known kinks or find out more about yourself, to further compatibility. After that, you just gotta go on dates and start figuring out what you actually hate in other people.
For you, diet sounds like a big one. It is for me, too, but not in a vegetarian way. I’m like the opposite, where everybody I end up meeting has super restrictive diets, and I really like most kinds of food.
I dunno. Dating and finding good partners feels easier than finding friends, because at least there’s an industry around finding potential partners and it also feels weirdly more socially acceptable to put out your sexual/partner compatibility needs than your friend/social ones; having specific friends standards seems really taboo.
Go to where you actually like to eat, because you’re testing out this person for long term compatibility.
If the answer is anything other than Long John Silvers then you don’t have enough game to get beyond the first date.
Nothing says game like frozen fish sticks.
I prefer the chicken also if you can find an a&w combo one to get root beer it’s over.
I never spend money on a first date.
For my current girlfriend, I took her to my place and I cooked her pasta. Very intimate and I don’t need to spend money.
Demonstrating skill in cooking is a great strategy, but you often can’t do that for a first date.
Still, practice, dudes. Have a few dishes you are good at making when that opportunity arises.
And if it doesn’t, you can eat well and expand those skills.
“I get to choose” as in I have to try and guess where she wants to go. If it was up to me it’s either Burger King or a sushi buffet.
as in I have to try and guess where she wants to go.
(A heads up; that answer makes you sound slightly bitter and very “all women are the same”-y, in case that wasn’t your intention.)
No, the question was “where do you want to eat dinner for a first date / what do you think is a good first date dinner? Why?”
You can always present your date with two or three options and ask them what they’d prefer if you’re scared of choosing “wrong”, but this question was about what you would want.
It’s fine thinking BK or sushi buffet are good for a first date (though I’d personally prefer to do takeaway to a park or something as the atmosphere at BK isn’t great where I live). Any reason you’d like those for a first date?
I am bitter and it was my intention though I wouldn’t go as far as to generalize that all women are like that as it’s obviously not the case.
However, these are all different questions. What’s an appropriate restaurant for a first date is different from where I’d personally like to eat which is different from which place I would choose for us to eat together.
I don’t think a sushi buffet or BK is an appropriate place for a first date. Those are where I go to refuel myself and it’s as romantic as visiting the gas station. That’s why I end up choosing a more appropriate place but that place is in fact not where I want to go - it’s where I assume she wants to go. This is pretty much my experience of most things in relationships. I try my best to please her and am left completely unsatisfied myself.
Hell - maybe I should just turn this into a shit test. Next time I get to choose I tell her I want to go cook sausages by a camp fire. If she doesn’t then she can go find someone else. I’m tired of this shit.
Interesting. Where I want to go for a first date is not the same as where I want to go just to refuel. In my mind they need to facilitate different things. Are they the same to you?
its where I assume she wants to go. This is pretty much my experience of most things in relationships. I try my best to please her and am left completely unsatisfied myself.
Sounds like that’s a suffering of your own making, to be frank. You’re ignoring the “take” part of give-and-take.
I too tend to neglect myself and my needs in relationships, which is why I swore off them until I had learnt to balance my priorities so I wouldn’t forget myself.
But I also fully knew that neglecting myself was something I did, not my partners. If I enthusiastically choose what they want to do and always to predict what my partner wants, instead of expressing my own wants and finding a compromise or taking turns, then they never get the opportunity to do things for me or compromise - because they think we’re both getting what we want already.
If you are expressing your wants and still never get catered to, then it’s probably not a good relationship. But if you’re not expressing yourself you are setting your partner (and the relationship) up for failure.
I absolutely think you should make a suggestion that takes your own personality into account for a first date. Of course we dont need to dump all of our worst traits at once, but you’re not there pretending to be the perfect fit like you’re auditioning for the role of partner, you’re both there to figure out if you mesh well together.
Plus, hot dogs by a camp fire was one of the best dates I’ve been on (wouldn’t recommend deep woods or other very remote locations for a first date with a stranger though). I wouldn’t want to date someone who didn’t like camp fires!
