• @Deceptichum@quokk.au
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    23 hours ago

    I’ll blame any parent that forces their trauma onto an innocent child.

    And I say this as a rape victim and a child abandoned at birth.

    • @Passerby6497@lemmy.world
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      718 hours ago

      As a parent who had a traumatic childhood, as well as partner to two raped AFABs, you don’t “force” your trauma on your children, you have to force yourself to overcome your trauma to be a better person.

      Trauma is fucking hard to deal with at the best of times when you don’t have evidence of your traumatic even sitting in front of you all day every day. I can’t comprehend the difficulty they would have to deal with everyday, but that also isn’t an excuse to not be better, and the child absolutely deserves better.

    • @unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de
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      23 hours ago

      The whole idea of “trauma” is that its involuntary. You dont have a rational choice, your brain makes the choice for you.

      If you have trauma of that level you either go with therapy or put your child up for adoption. Its not something you can solve with willpower.

      • @Deceptichum@quokk.au
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        -2423 hours ago

        Right and if you don’t do those things, and instead take it out on an innocent child I’m going to blame the fuck out of you.

        • @idiomaddict@lemmy.world
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          I don’t mean to be even more dystopian, but doesn’t the biological father have to consent to adoption/get first rights to adopt?