That’s enough internet for me today, thanks.

Man I loved OTW! I need to get back into it.

I rarely used Google bc I apparently have a masochistic desire to make things harder than they need to be, I mostly just looked at all the man pages (type man command name here) and it usually brings up a helpful manual that has it’s own controls to navigate with. Helpful to know that ‘Q’ is the key you want to press to leave the man page and go back to the terminal. It took me a few tries to learn that. But seriously, I had fun just getting lost in all the features and options in each page for awhile even if it wasn’t the fastest way to complete the levels. Man pages are mostly dry and sometimes funny but they will get you through a lot of Bandit without using google IMO.

This is bs. For the last decade I’ve been absolutely sick of sham, feel-good, self-fellating article by Gen X/Boomers about how millennials are the worst scum of mankind, the gooch of satan himself, and the cause of all things wrong or mildly inconvenient for the world of older folks. I’ll be damned if I let the same media cycle trick me into doing the same thing to the next generation. Gen Z drives me nuts sometimes. A lot of Gen Z content on youtube is preachy and critical of my generation and I don’t always get their humor but even if I did think their demographic had a lower IQ on average than mine I’ll never give the fucking media the satisfaction of my engagement at this absolutely useless, needlessly divisive slop. FUCK this. FUCK. THIS. Gen Z is doing the absolute best they can with the hand they were dealt just like all of us when we were younger. FUCK THESE KINDS OF ARTICLES AND THE PEOPLE WHO PRODUCE THEM.

Texas did all this? What are you talking about? Yeah it’s a large population center but Ted Cruz is Canadian and Trumpf is from NYC. Idk what your logic is to somehow restrict an international hate/populist movement geographically to one (admittedly egotistical) state, but judging by your account age and name I’m going to assume you’re a bot or another paid ruzzian actor. Hope the FSB, PRC, or DPRK pays you well.

No. To forgive is to let it go yourself, you can still protect yourself and deny that harm. Even in Biblical examples that’s a given. C’mon.

I think you mean that instead of the night, you are the Day man

Source?

I’ve heard of that book, thanks for the recommend. I’ll check it out.

This cartoon of Mark Zuckerberg is the most lifelike and emotive he’s ever seemed. Usually he’s got RDF, Resting Data (Star Trek) Face.

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Almost done with “Stiff” by Mary Roach. Funny, well written overview on cadaver treatment through history.

We all are the only and best witness to our individual experiences. I don’t think that’s taught enough. I’m not saying that all truth is relative all the time, but I think it’s very reasonable to be in a nation with a de facto two-party duopoly on the entire political system and come to a conclusion as an individual that there are many things and experiences, including your own, that aren’t accurately represented or advocated for by either party’s narratives. IMO, that’s common sense. Just like America has one of the highest per capita incarceration rates in the world, it’s also unique in that it (and all of the five eyes nations except for NZ and kind of Australia) is a western democracy that only has two parties with the vast control of natl. govt. instead of a coalition of many more. Competition almost always yields better results for customers in a market and in politics.

We’re in a system in which voters feel locked into a system of only two choices and then will turn around and berate other voters for not being 1000% committed to ‘the revolution’ after toppling the n*zis. Instead of providing a inclusive environment for old republicans turning away from and standing against obvious fascism, some of the left does a whole old timey Christian preacher “scare the hell out of you,” narcissism-of-small-differences routine with zero prompting to try and push for a huge cultural and political upheaval before removing the awfulness that’s currently in power. It’s the Aesop’s Fables lion giving up the rabbit (small win) to chase the antelope (ambitious win) and losing both. It’s Anakin telling Obi Wan to join him with the Sith or die, his head so far up his own butt with his own issues that he thinks that’s an actual choice for Obi Wan but it’s not. It’s shortsighted and self-centered and it’s stupid. And for the sake of just getting through elections in the next 4 years I wish it would stop.

Anyway. “Nothing is ever as good or bad as people say it is. It’s always better or worse and you have to figure out how.” Some of that is adjusting your own expectations and reactions, some of it is adjusting for the biases of others.

Same. When I was at a point where I was skipping a meal a day to save for rent, it was the boots problem. If I could get the nicer, more durable thing, it was always worth it in the long run but not usually affordable up front. But sometimes there are easy wins. I found my first and only cast iron skillet I’ve had in the last 15 years covered in grease & surface level rust next to a dumpster on the way home. Some oven cleaner and flaxseed oil and it has been good to me ever since.

It started then by saying no to eating out bc it’s unaffordable, now it’s saying no to eating out at a lot of places bc they have awful food, service, and management treats their workers like crap. Starbucks wasn’t worth it to me for a long time before the anti union stuff, now I have two reasons (actually more) never to go there again.

I always think of this post whenever I hear someone dead-set on nothing less than massive, systemic change.

Conscious consumption! I like it. It’s a big part of what they advocate on the Frugal Friends podcast. Just need to figure out the “we have McDonalds at home” of fossil fuels. Hybrids & bikes can be a good first start.

I think franchisees have a lot of leeway as to how things are run, down to some of the suppliers. It makes sense to me that it varies by location. The downside is that if I’m used to it being bad (which I am) then it taints every other location for me. I don’t know whether McDs or Sonic is going to be ok versus awful and I pay the same either way so if I have literally any other choice I’m not going to gamble on it.

Anything over the web I think it’s anyone’s guess without more proof. But after the Moore County Power attack in 2022 I’m never going to fully rule out bad actors in the states.

Because there’s no native sync for feeds between NetNewsWire and FreshRSS. iOS and Windows developers don’t develop useful apps for both platforms for free.

Qwant off of Orion on iOS. Don’t bother with Kagi. There are better options if they switch to graphene.

EDIT: SearXNG is perfect in every way except for consistently returning useful search results.

This is a very valid feeling. But it doesn’t sit well in the context of therapy. Like, this is individual therapy dealing with trauma from systemic problems. Like, if it’s outside of my locus of control I can either let it affect me forever or try to do something about it, even if that something is letting go (or even forgiving, as far-fetched as that ideal seems these days). Part of going to therapy is taking agency. There is a problem, in some small way I will do whatever I can about it.

I can’t just be mad with this and raise my mental pitchfork bc this is an illustration of someone rightfully truly struggling and their mental health physician pointing them towards the painful way out. I think the takeaway is less “how could anyone expect anyone to get over anything this heinous” and more one of horrible feeling of trying to hold onto the one thing you’re left with when someone is taken from you like that --anger-- and coming to terms with the fact that that anger is still hurting you long after. Your therapist is not going to start the revolution or the purge for you. They are literally there to help you and you alone with things that trouble you and you alone. When they talk to survivors of abuse as children, rape victims, they aren’t going to go out and slay the offenders, even if they want to. They are just trying to work with the tiniest amount of control a victim still has after the crime to help the victims make real change for themselves.

I guess overall it might not be productive to take that private struggle and put it out to your tumblr mutuals to validate you and build resistance to letting go but Idk. Healing can take many forms.