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Cake day: June 13th, 2025

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  • The returning the gift is what normal people do when they get something that they don’t want/like, AND when the person giving the gift isn’t the spouse. You can return it, the person giving it will never know, and everyone goes away relatively happy.

    OP is being reasonable from a certain perspective, in that he can’t just return the gift because it’s his spouse. She’ll know. So he explained that he wants to return it, because it would be like being gifted a new car when you’ve just finished restoring the beautiful hot rod that has passed to you after your mother passed away, and it was the same hot rod that she used to take you driving in down the old country roads when she got home from work on a friday. You don’t want to get rid of the hot rod, but you’ve only got space in the garage for one car. Should you just “receive the gift” and get rid of the hot rod? Of course not.

    In the OP’s case, if he doesn’t just “receive the gift” then his spouse will be hurt, so there is a very large pressure there to accept the gift so his spouse won’t get hurt. So to him, he’s been put in a position that makes him hurt because whatever he does will hurt someone, either himself by getting rid of the sentimental 3d printer, or his spouse by not keeping the new gift.


  • I would trust an ‘ai’ that had been designed from the ground up to do well in the stock market, just like I would trust an ‘ai’ that’s been designed from the ground up to drive trains. Idiots who think an llm is an ai in anything but spitting out what seems like reasonable answers/responses to your inputs are, well, idiots.







  • I’m trying to think of different places I’ve lived, because the cost of housing / food / other changes. For example, when I lived out in the sticks, rent was cheap but food, gas, and incidentals were hella expensive. I’m near a big urban area now, and it’s expensive rent, cheap gas (due to using less), moderate food, moderate incidentals.

    Anyway, more relevantly, I know people who can get by with incomes of ~$18.00/hr full time jobs. Anything that is unexpected kills them though, whether it’s car trouble, medical issues, or otherwise. You won’t be in a house though, unless you’re renting a room. You won’t be in a rat-infested hole, but something like a one bedroom apartment or two bedroom with a roommate. I know of a few folks who are raising a family on that salary, with the caveat that family helped them with housing (either an inherited property or similar). This is in an area where you can find cheap housing due to natural disasters and generally ‘rural’ areas that are basically paying developers to build cheap housing (i.e., looks like it’s decent but is basically matchsticks and glue).

    I helped people budget when they were making $11.00/hr full time, and that’s where you start seeing a lot of compromises made (it was also 10 years ago, so things have probably gotten worse). Kids and parents are stuffed into tiny rooms in bad apartments, a car is held together by tape and a prayer (and if anything happens it’s going to be scrapped and they’ll try to scrape by with a wreck they could get running, and then hope they never get seen by a cop for its numerous problems / lack of insurance/registration), and hopefully they’ll be able to get a few government benefits to get the kids help for medical benefits.

    I’ve worked with people making the federal minimum of $7.25/hr, and they rely on the government to have any hope of a not-horrible life. They’re either in government housing, or in a trailer with 5 people living in it. The car is shared between several people; they walk to work, even if it sucks and is an hour+walk, because they’ll be fired in an instant if they don’t show up; they’re probably on food stamps, utility help,etc.; medical is basically call ems and get to an emergency room if they’re keeling over (and hope that the er can fix it, i.e., that it’s not something that just gets ‘stabilized’); bills are always piling up… it wasn’t pleasant.

    So, all that being said, I’d peg it somewhere around $25.00/hr. That’s where my higher paid coworkers seem to start looking at houses, and talk about starting families. I’ll have to go look at the numbers (and we know that those are probably fucked due to the administration right now…) but I think that’s near or above median income in america. That would mean 50% of the population isn’t going to be living “just ok,” which really sucks to think about.


  • Okay, so definitely not right now in my life, lol. It sounds great though. One of the reasons I ‘fell out’ with MMOs was the rushed nature of their story due to wanting to throw people at the end game content. EQ2 was reasonable with it, but WoW just fucked everything for me. It was never worth the time to learn about an area, because you’re already past most of its content and getting to the next one by the time you sneezed from the book dust.